WHY do we have the same conversation over and over with our intimate partner in an attempt to gain closeness and understanding, yet leave feeling exhausted and further apart? HOW is it that even though we go to therapy, listen to the podcast, and decode our maladaptive coping mechanisms from childhood, we still end up in a never-ending loop of circular communication? If this is happening, or has ever happened, with your significant other…welcome to intimacy.

What we know as Imago Practitioners is that no one other than your “other” can pull you into this dance of the Power Struggle, because no one else can ever get close enough to scare you, trigger you, enrage you, or dysregulate you to your core. The longer you’re in a committed relationship, the more you have invested, the more vulnerable you become, and the more you have to lose.

This is not what they tell you on your wedding day! BUT! In Imago, we know this is all part of a universal plan to reclaim parts of ourselves and move into a more evolved individual within a more evolved relationship. So while couples often come to me at this stage of relationship, often in extreme pain and conflict, I get to tell them the good news: this pain point is actually your relationship trying to level up and reach its next stage of evolution.

In my next post, we’ll explore how NOT knowing your Imago is sabotaging your relationship.

If you’re finding yourself stuck in these patterns and are ready to experience your relationship differently, I invite you to fill out the contact form to get started.