Our Imago (Latin for “Image”) is our unconscious blueprint of intimate relationships. It is a template out of our awareness, yet driving who we pick and then how we operate in relationships. It makes up A LOT of the quiet and not-so-quiet “shoulds” we have about partnership. I “should” think/feel/act this way; you “should” think/feel/act this way.

In transactional analysis theory, that is called “shoulding all over yourself” (LOVE THIS!). When I am working with an individual or couple and I help them uncover their Imago, I describe it like looking at a 3D poster… upon first sight, it looks like a bunch of squiggle marks. This is your brain arranging the images as it has always perceived things. Our idea of love and partnership can get locked into the way we have always seen things as well. If you turn your head, adjust your eyes, and look at it in a different way, you can see a deeper picture beyond the squiggle marks.

In working with couples using Imago Theory structures, I’m able to assist each person to uncover their Imago and see past the one-dimensional vision of relationship to reveal how and why they keep repeating the same unsatisfied relationship.

If you’re finding yourself stuck in these patterns and are ready to experience your relationship differently, I invite you to fill out the contact form to get started.